Let’s talk about a topic that’s been on my mind lately—the societal expectations placed on moms. We’re often told that being a good mom means having no boundaries and being selfless all the time. But you know what? I’ve come to realize that this narrative just doesn’t work for me, and maybe it doesn’t work for you either.

My life may look a bit unconventional to many, but there’s a reason behind it—a reason rooted in my own well-being and happiness. Let me share my journey with you.

A while back, I found myself on the path to burnout. My husband’s frequent work travels, my late-night shifts at the hospital, and the constant pressure to do everything well as a mom were taking a toll on me. And you know what made it worse? I had this belief that asking for help would make me appear vulnerable or weak.

But here’s the thing— Meanwhile, I started noticing a concerning trend at the hospital. Younger and younger women were coming in with health problems, many of them finally waking up to the fact that their busy lifestyles and selflessness were to blame. Until that moment, they wore the badge of busyness proudly, relying on takeout or skipping meals altogether, barely finding time to exercise, sacrificing sleep, and completely neglecting self-care. It was a wake-up call for me.

I knew I didn’t want my future to resemble that path. So, I made a choice—to let go of trying to wear all the hats and be everything for everyone.

The advice from those moms resonated with me: slow down, take care of yourself, learn how to say no, and set boundaries now while your kids are little. And that’s exactly what I’ve been striving to do and teach others to do.

Mama, it’s time to lay down the badge of busyness. It’s time to prioritize yourself and your well-being.

Say no to the things that drain you and leave you depleted. Say no to the pressure of enrolling your kids in every extracurricular activity if it means sacrificing meals. Say no to late-night binge-watching or mindless scrolling that steals precious hours of sleep. Say no to rushing through your mornings without a moment of peace or calm. And say no to peer pressure that keeps you up late when all you truly want is a good night’s rest.

Is your job serving you? Or are you serving it? So many women get wrapped up in an unfulfilling career and sacrifice time with family. Yes, the bills need to get paid but are you working to pay for a lifestyle you can learn to live without? Something to consider.

Start saying yes to the things that fill your body, mind, and soul. Plan out your meals and embrace a colorful, nutritious diet. Take the time to prepare yourself a nourishing lunch or chop veggies for dinners ahead of time. Take time to consider whether your current job and career are serving you. Create goals for yourself and work towards new things. And don’t forget to prioritize exercise, even if it means just going for a walk, it still counts. These seemingly simple acts make a world of difference.

Sure, when we choose to exercise regularly, cook meals from scratch, and practice self-care, some may think we’re a bit odd. But you know what? That’s okay! Our lives may appear unconventional to many, but they are filled with purpose and fulfillment. You do you. It’s time we change the narrative.

For me, this meant scaling back my hours at the hospital and accepting a pay cut. It meant homeschooling my kiddos and prioritizing quality time with them. It meant opting out of frequent restaurant outings and instead embracing planning and preparing meals at home. And most importantly, it meant structuring my day around self-care and ensuring I have the time and energy to fuel myself properly. I am not perfect but I am purposeful in what I do.

Maybe you’ve been feeling the weight of societal expectations and wondering if there’s a different path, let me assure you—you’re not alone.

Embrace your own version of unconventional. Prioritize self-care, set boundaries, and create a life that truly supports your well-being and happiness.

Remember, it’s not about fitting into society’s mold of what a mom should be. It’s about finding your own unique rhythm and living a life that authentically reflects who you are—a mom who takes care of herself so she can show up as her best self for her loved ones. You deserve it!

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I'm Abby— a Registered Nurse and Functional Health Consultant. I assist clients in identifying the root cause of their health problems, begin healing, and attain optimal wellness. Book a free consult to learn more about my services!

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